Couple Counselling is a safe forum in which to discuss issues which, when handled by the couple only by themselves, can too easily descend into misunderstanding or recrimination. When we feel that we haven’t ourselves been heard properly by our partner, we’re less likely to want to hear them in turn. But in the consulting room, everyone can safely have their say, can feel acknowledged, and as a result, progress can be made.
The couple therapist becomes the wise broker, allowing each person to express feelings (however awkward). They can see things through the eyes of both parties but never take either of their sides. Couple Counselling is a safe diplomatic back channel, away from the day to day. The therapist can hold both parties back for just long enough that they can start to understand what the other is going through. Renewed tenderness can follow.
A common fear before going to a couple counselor is that they may take the side of the other person in the relationship. There is in practice no such danger. The counselor has only one responsibility; and that is to the relationship itself.
If a decision has been taken to split, a counselor can also be helpful in helping to negotiate a graceful and kindly ending, one that honours the best sides of the relationship.
Far from a self-indulgence, undergoing couples counselling is one of the most generous things we could ever do for ourselves and one another.
If you have any questions about this service, please email us.
Male-sensitive couple/relationship counseling where we affirm the male client’s strengths, while helping him develop skills that will enhance his ability to deepen their relationship.
Women's lives revolves around many roles and experiences---and relationships need exploring, reviewing or refreshing. That's where we help address her gender-role socialization in couple counseling.
Helping couples focus more on the process of how they relate to each other than on the content of what they share---to help review, rectify, and build a solid foundation for a loving union.